Dear Annie: I am a feminist to the core and a lawyer. Forty years ago, I got tired of getting mad at my husband for his lack of interest/caring/whatever with regard to Christmas gifts. I went off to my therapist, sure I would get a sympathetic ear.

My husband and I have been married for over 20 years. Recently, he has become increasingly controlling, checking all my movements and whereabouts, even while we are both at home. He checks if I am asleep by pretending to be putting something on the bedside table when he could just ask if I am asleep,

"Recently, he has become increasingly controlling, checking all my movements and whereabouts, even while we are both at home."